Monthly Archives: July 2011
Secret #4: Build your team.
Do you like your child’s doctor? I hope so!
If you don’t, it’s time to make a change. Don’t put it off another minute.
As Doctor Moms, we have to trust our child’s medical team. If we don’t, our lives will be full of additional worry and stress. We’ll second-guess every decision and never have peace.
Take the time to find a doctor you trust. Will it take extra effort on your part? Sure! But the reward will be worth it.
Trusting your child’s medical team will take a burden off your shoulders and allow you to step back into more of a “mom role.”
If you question your child’s doctor, pray about it. Ask God to give you direction. He will faithfully point you in the right direction!
For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. Proverbs 2:6
Are you Doctor Mom to a child with Autism? Does your child have special education needs?
If so, then you probably know that this is Special Education week & Autism Awareness Month. It’s a time to celebrate all kids facing such challenges.
It’s also a time to recognize all the Doctor Moms who care for those precious children.
I know you’re tired. I know you worry. But you are doing an awesome job! You are doing the best you can and that is all that God asks of you. He will equip you with everything you need to be a fantastic Doctor Mom. All you have to do is ask Him!
Never forget what a blessing it is to care for your child. It is an honor to serve God this way. One day you will look back on this season of life, so grateful that God trusts you with this job.
If your child has special needs or autism, please leave a comment. Tell me how fantastic your child is and let me know if you have any prayer requests.
If you are reading this, please take a few minutes to pray for those leaving comments.
We all face different challenges, but we are all in this together.
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Proverbs 3:5-6 MSG
Welcome to our first Memory Monday!
I hope you’ll join me in memorizing Jeremiah 29:11 this week. You might know it already, but I think it sets a good foundation for us as Doctor Moms.
Perhaps you can write your verses in a pretty little notebook. Each week, review past verses you’ve learned and add new ones!
Below, you’ll see several versions of this verse. Find the one that speaks to your heart and start memorizing! (Personally, I LOVE the Message version of this passage!)
I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out – plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for. (Jeremiah 29:11 MSG)
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)
For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 NLT)
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. (Jeremiah 29:11 KJV)
Which version are you going to memorize?
Secret #3: Hide God’s word in your heart!
When trouble comes (and we both know it will) then you’ll know what to do. : )
To help you along this path, and to connect us on this journey, I’m going to start Memory Mondays. Each week, I’ll post an encouraging verse that every Doctor Mom can use!
Write it on a postcard and keep it handy. In the kitchen….on your nightstand…..say it while you brush your teeth!
Maybe you can even have your child learn along with you. You’ll be setting a good example for your child and hopefully starting a life-long habit in the process. What a blessing!
Will you join me in memorizing God’s word?
It’s been a rough couple of nights in our household. Matthew’s blood sugar has been far from ideal and we’ve had very little sleep.
I’m tired. Rundown.
On the edge of feeling overwhelmed.
Exhaustion is a huge enemy of every Doctor Mom. Whenever it hits, I lose self-control in EVERY area….from my words, to my actions, to my diet.
It effects my attitude, my child and my marriage.
If you’re feeling the same way, please know that you’re not alone.
This journey as Doctor Mom is a difficult road. Exhaustion will happen at some point.
What’s a Doctor Mom to do?
Well, I’ve decided to be good to myself. God has blessed me with a free calendar today and I will take full advantage of it.
I will nap. Without feeling guilty.
I will read my bible. So thankful for the comfort.
I will listen to Christian music, light candles and play with my child.
I’m going to do my best to “recharge” so I can keep a smile on my Doctor Mom face.
Are you taking care of yourself?
Secret #2: Forget your mistakes!
This is the tough part of being a Doctor Mom: we’re not perfect. We will do our very best and still make mistakes.
Sometimes big ones.
I recently forgot to change something on Matthew’s insulin pump and sent him LOW! Thankfully we caught it and he was okay.
Here’s the point: mistakes will happen. What’s a Doctor Mom to do?
- Review what happened.
- Learn from it.
- Do better next time.
- Put the mistake out of your head. (Don’t miss this!) Being burdened with guilt helps no one.
Finally, pray that God gives you wisdom in advance. With Him on your side, you really can do this job–successfully!
How do you handle mistakes?
What does it take to be a Great Doctor Mom?
Secret number 1: You must partner with the Lord.
- You need wisdom that only God can give.
- Partnering with God allows you to step back into more of a “mom role.”
- You’ll feel more confident knowing that every decision you make is bathed in prayer.
- God is in charge anyway, so you might as well seek him first and get help! : )
God is a God of hope and He can give joy to sustain you through the darkest of days. (Romans 15:13) The Bible says if we put our trust in Him, He’ll guide us along the best path for our life. (Psalm 32:8).
God also gives the gift of eternal life: For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)
If you don’t have this hope, you can change that right now with this simple prayer.
Lord, I confess to you that I’ve made many mistakes. I’ve tried to live on my own for far too long. I believe that you died for my sins and rose again. You have victory over sin and death! I want to accept you as my Lord and Savior. Please come into my life and help me learn more about you.
If you just prayed that prayer, find a Bible-believing church to join and start spending time with God daily. Your heart will be full of joy and peace, knowing that you have the gift of eternal life. That promise alone will sustain you through those tough Doctor Mom days we all face.
Reality check: What is your relationship with God?
I’m not a TV junkie, but I confess! I love the Biggest Loser. It’s such an inspiration to watch those overweight contestants transform into athletes.
Even if you don’t watch the Biggest Loser, you’ve certainly heard of Bob Harper and Jillian Michaels. Honestly, they both scare the daylights out of me. Especially Jillian. I once had a nightmare about her putting me through a torturous workout. (I can’t believe she left the show!)
What I love most about Bob and Jillian is their encouragement. Listen to the show for just a few minutes and you hear such amazing motivation. You can do it! Don’t you dare stop! You’re amazing! Keep moving forward! Believe in yourself! They want the contestants to step up and push through the pain. Oh yes, the contestants may scream, cry, or puke, but giving up is not an option.
Read that again: giving up is not an option.
The same rule applies to us. We are Daily Doctor Moms and giving up is not an option. We may be utterly exhausted, in tears and ready to throw in the towel, but we can’t resign this job. We cannot stop. The truth is that our children need us to be in their corner, fighting for them even when things get rough.
But how do you stay strong when you’re completely overwhelmed? The good news is that we have a trainer far better than Bob or Jillian. We have the God of the universe in our corner, encouraging us every step of the way.
Success begins with surrendering this job to the Lord and allowing Him to do the work through us. When we partner with God, our victory is a guarantee!
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. (Ephesians 6:10 NIV)
There will be seasons of your life when the house isn’t clean, you run out of groceries and all the laundry is dirty. Sometimes all on the same day.
Sound familiar? Don’t feel guilty. It happens to all of us.
Sometimes you don’t even have time to take a shower. For days. I have a Doctor Mom friend who finally just Febreezed herself one day.
You might find behave differently. Perhaps you’re not usually an angry person and suddenly you’re fighting with your husband. Or you’re short-tempered with your child. Or you start to isolate yourself from friends.
Your emotions will be very confusing. You’ll feel happy, sad, angry, guilty, and overwhelmed.
One day you might pat yourself on the back, thinking you really have a handle on things and the very next day you’ll cry until you think that you need a doctor yourself. At some point, this happens to us all. Usually many times.
Before you get depressed—there are ways to cope with everything thrown at you. God hasn’t left you in the dark. His Word is full of wisdom and guidance to get you through the changes.
The bibical story of Mary and Martha gives great insight into how God wants us to live. You’ll find the story in Luke 10:38-41.
Jesus and his disciples are visiting the sisters. Mary quickly curled up at Jesus’ feet so she could listen to him. But Martha? Well…she was “distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.” And then, she got frustrated with Mary for not helping her. After complaining to Jesus, Martha learned that Mary had made a better choice by putting Jesus first.
Today is the day for you to make a choice:
Will you worry about cleaning the house? Or will you take some time to read the Bible?
Will you feel guilty about taking a nap? Or will you be good to yourself so you can be a great Doctor Mom?
Please note…..I do think being a good homemaker is an important ministry to your family. I long to be a Proverbs 31 woman. But the truth is that your role as Doctor Mom needs to be your priority. If you aren’t able to dust or vacuum one week because you were up all night taking care of your child—you made the right choice.
And God will honor you for having the heart of a servant. You can’t make wise medical decisions if you are exhausted. And guilt will just weigh you down even more.
Most importantly, you can’t be a good Doctor Mom without seeking wisdom from the Great Physician first.
Question: Will you be Mary or Martha today?
This past weekend, we went to see Cars 2. Honestly, none of us really liked the first Cars movie very much, but now that the cars are spies. Well, that’s right up Matthew’s alley.
Turns out that the movie was pretty good. And I fell in love with Mater. (Don’t tell my husband.)
Who’s Mater? He’s the snaggled-toothed tow truck that…well…let’s just say he’s not the smartest truck around. Of course, by the end of the movie, Mater ends up saving the day and becomes everyone’s hero.
But here’s the great thing about Mater. He realized he wasn’t perfect and yet, he didn’t get frustrated or angry with his faults. He just kept right on…being Mater.
As Doctor Moms, all too often we focus on our faults. Okay, so we don’t have a medical degree and yet we’re making serious medical decisions. Is that a challenge? Of course it is! But we can’t spend life second-guessing every decision we make. We’re not perfect and we never will be.
Take a lesson from Mater: don’t focus on yourself!
Keep your eyes on Jesus.
One final note. Those other characters in Cars 2? I don’t remember much about them at all. But Mater’s “unsophisicated” nature—his big fault—is exactly what makes him so lovable!
QUESTION: Are you stressing out over your imperfections? Today is the day to stop!