Category Archives: Attitude
This is what winter looks like in my dreams. But that is very far from reality.
This has been one of the craziest winters in Texas. Seriously warmer than what you would expect. And where is that snow we had last year?
Of course, who knows what next week will bring? We all know seasons can change very quickly.
What season are you going through?
I have a friend who’s going through a season of confusion. Decisions need to be made, but there’s not enough information.
It’s turned into a waiting game.
I have another friend whose husband just had brain surgery. It wasn’t cancer, which is a blessing, but the recovery is going slower than expected.
Another waiting game.
Perhaps today you’re going through a rough season. It’s never fun, but remember, a “season” doesn’t last. And truthfully, they change quicker than you think.
Today is a new day. A fresh start!
Do something to make it special. Maybe go to a movie, or play a game with your kids. Order a pizza for dinner. Well, you D-Moms might not want to do that. Maybe go out for burgers? ; )
The point is that there are things to be happy about. Find them and celebrate!
Sometimes we spend so much time worrying about tomorrow, that we forget to have fun today.
If this post inspired you, would you be willing to share? Thank you!
I woke up this morning feeling nothing but defeat.
I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to make breakfast for my family, feed the dog or go to church.
I had it bad.
Overnight Friday was spent basal testing Matthew. Trying to figure out how to keep his sugar steady overnight. I learned that his insulin levels overnight are WAY off.
But I made a tenative plan to fix it. Then…I decided to basal test one more night, just to confirm the first results.
Doctor Moms–this is where God’s hand was on me…because…
The second basal test overnight Saturday showed different results. I was so mad! I wanted a pattern and it wasn’t there! I thought I had a plan! Now what?
I got out of bed and fixed the boys breakfast. (Though there were tears in my eyes.)
And I while I was in the shower getting ready for church, God showed me that I was focusing on the problem..not the blessing.
Yes, there is something going on overnight with his BG. Truthfully, I don’t know what it is yet or how to fix it.
God had me test again. If I had jumped in and implemented my plan, Matthew’s sugar would have dropped BIG TIME.
God prevented that from happening. His hand is on me and He’s guiding me. When I ask God for wisdom each morning, He’s answering! What a blessing!
And that is where my focus needs to be.
What are you focusing on today? Look for the blessing and thank God for it.
There is a blessing somewhere.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13 NIV
I’m not a TV junkie, but I confess! I love the Biggest Loser. It’s such an inspiration to watch those overweight contestants transform into athletes.
Even if you don’t watch the Biggest Loser, you’ve certainly heard of Bob Harper and Jillian Michaels. Honestly, they both scare the daylights out of me. Especially Jillian. I once had a nightmare about her putting me through a torturous workout. (I can’t believe she left the show!)
What I love most about Bob and Jillian is their encouragement. Listen to the show for just a few minutes and you hear such amazing motivation. You can do it! Don’t you dare stop! You’re amazing! Keep moving forward! Believe in yourself! They want the contestants to step up and push through the pain. Oh yes, the contestants may scream, cry, or puke, but giving up is not an option.
Read that again: giving up is not an option.
The same rule applies to us. We are Daily Doctor Moms and giving up is not an option. We may be utterly exhausted, in tears and ready to throw in the towel, but we can’t resign this job. We cannot stop. The truth is that our children need us to be in their corner, fighting for them even when things get rough.
But how do you stay strong when you’re completely overwhelmed? The good news is that we have a trainer far better than Bob or Jillian. We have the God of the universe in our corner, encouraging us every step of the way.
Success begins with surrendering this job to the Lord and allowing Him to do the work through us. When we partner with God, our victory is a guarantee!
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. (Ephesians 6:10 NIV)
There will be seasons of your life when the house isn’t clean, you run out of groceries and all the laundry is dirty. Sometimes all on the same day.
Sound familiar? Don’t feel guilty. It happens to all of us.
Sometimes you don’t even have time to take a shower. For days. I have a Doctor Mom friend who finally just Febreezed herself one day.
You might find behave differently. Perhaps you’re not usually an angry person and suddenly you’re fighting with your husband. Or you’re short-tempered with your child. Or you start to isolate yourself from friends.
Your emotions will be very confusing. You’ll feel happy, sad, angry, guilty, and overwhelmed.
One day you might pat yourself on the back, thinking you really have a handle on things and the very next day you’ll cry until you think that you need a doctor yourself. At some point, this happens to us all. Usually many times.
Before you get depressed—there are ways to cope with everything thrown at you. God hasn’t left you in the dark. His Word is full of wisdom and guidance to get you through the changes.
The bibical story of Mary and Martha gives great insight into how God wants us to live. You’ll find the story in Luke 10:38-41.
Jesus and his disciples are visiting the sisters. Mary quickly curled up at Jesus’ feet so she could listen to him. But Martha? Well…she was “distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.” And then, she got frustrated with Mary for not helping her. After complaining to Jesus, Martha learned that Mary had made a better choice by putting Jesus first.
Today is the day for you to make a choice:
Will you worry about cleaning the house? Or will you take some time to read the Bible?
Will you feel guilty about taking a nap? Or will you be good to yourself so you can be a great Doctor Mom?
Please note…..I do think being a good homemaker is an important ministry to your family. I long to be a Proverbs 31 woman. But the truth is that your role as Doctor Mom needs to be your priority. If you aren’t able to dust or vacuum one week because you were up all night taking care of your child—you made the right choice.
And God will honor you for having the heart of a servant. You can’t make wise medical decisions if you are exhausted. And guilt will just weigh you down even more.
Most importantly, you can’t be a good Doctor Mom without seeking wisdom from the Great Physician first.
Question: Will you be Mary or Martha today?
This past weekend, we went to see Cars 2. Honestly, none of us really liked the first Cars movie very much, but now that the cars are spies. Well, that’s right up Matthew’s alley.
Turns out that the movie was pretty good. And I fell in love with Mater. (Don’t tell my husband.)
Who’s Mater? He’s the snaggled-toothed tow truck that…well…let’s just say he’s not the smartest truck around. Of course, by the end of the movie, Mater ends up saving the day and becomes everyone’s hero.
But here’s the great thing about Mater. He realized he wasn’t perfect and yet, he didn’t get frustrated or angry with his faults. He just kept right on…being Mater.
As Doctor Moms, all too often we focus on our faults. Okay, so we don’t have a medical degree and yet we’re making serious medical decisions. Is that a challenge? Of course it is! But we can’t spend life second-guessing every decision we make. We’re not perfect and we never will be.
Take a lesson from Mater: don’t focus on yourself!
Keep your eyes on Jesus.
One final note. Those other characters in Cars 2? I don’t remember much about them at all. But Mater’s “unsophisicated” nature—his big fault—is exactly what makes him so lovable!
QUESTION: Are you stressing out over your imperfections? Today is the day to stop!
Let all that I am praise the Lord; With my whole heart, I will praise his holy name. Psalm 103:1 NLT
Our role as Doctor Mom is one of the greatest privileges that God has given us.
Oh, it doesn’t feel like it some days. All too often, we’re exhausted, stressed and worried. But none of those feelings change the fact that it is a blessing to care for our children with medical needs.
Fortunately, we’re walking this road at a time when medical technology is growing like crazy!
The internet is another blessing for every Doctor Mom. In the blink of an eye we can search for information or connect with other mom dealing with the same issues.
Yes, the high-tech world is definitely something to be thankful for! Today, remember to thank God for the brave men and women who dared to do something different years ago. And don’t forget to pray for those researchers continuing the work today.
So many of our children need a cure.
Question: What development can you thank God for today? (I’m thankful for insulin!)
Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe. Philippians 2:14-15 NIV
Complaining is something that most of us struggle with on a daily basis. But God doesn’t want us to struggle with it—he wants us to cut it out altogether!
Why? Because complaining shapes your attitude and your attitude defines your day. If we are to honor God, we need to stop the complaining.
I’ll be the first to admit that this can be a huge challenge for Doctor Moms. Quite frankly, we’re simply too tired to think about our attitude before words start spilling out of our mouth.
Here’s a recent example. Matthew just finished up a week of diabetes camp. He had a blast during the day, but his blood sugar dropped like crazy overnight. My husband and I were up checking him and giving him juice every 2 hours. Sometimes more…
One particular morning, I was exhausted. Complaints rolled off my tongue before I ever gave them a single thought….Lord, I’m so tired. I cannot believe how Matthew dropped last night! How am I going to get through this day? I’m so sleepy. Honestly, it was pathetic.
But then God spoke to my heart: You could thank me for getting Matthew through the night.
Oh my word. God was right. He did get us through the night—one of those drops was a big one and thankfully, we did catch it. Only by the grace of God.
So I happily turned my complaining into praising. Thank you, Lord, for getting us through the night. Thank you for another day with my precious child! Thank you for a husband who is willing to help with overnight checks. And Lord, I’m so grateful that somehow you’ll give me the energy to get through this day.
Yes, God deserves our praises, not our complaints. And while many Doctor Mom days are rough, we can still find ways to rejoice in the Lord!
Question: What complaint can you turn into a praise?
Confession: Yesterday, I almost let diabetes win.
It all started so innocent. We went out for dinner and were about to order when Matthew announced that he wantded a milkshake.
Sidenote: Every Doctor Mom will face different challenges, depending on your child’s medical needs. For someone with Type 1 Diabetes, a simple milkshake is anything but simple. It can seriously mess with your blood sugar.
Well, my first instinct was to say “no” to the shake, but in this instance, I knew it would be a victory for diabetes and that is not the outcome I’m working toward.
So I turned up the courage, pulled out my SuperWoman cape and figured it out. Go me!
(I also greatly improved my prayer life right there in that restaurant!)
Here’s the point: Our kids need to see us meeting their challenges head-on. That’s how they’ll learn to be courageous! As Doctor Moms, sometimes we simply have to tackle the hard things.
But it won’t be easy. Sometimes you’ll try your best and still mess up. Last night’s blood sugar was not good. But I still consider it a victory because at least I tried.
QUESTION: Can you think of one time when you didn’t let your child’s illness win? Tell me about it. Let’s celebrate the victory together!