Category Archives: Taking Care of Yourself
It’s been a rough couple of nights in our household. Matthew’s blood sugar has been far from ideal and we’ve had very little sleep.
I’m tired. Rundown.
On the edge of feeling overwhelmed.
Exhaustion is a huge enemy of every Doctor Mom. Whenever it hits, I lose self-control in EVERY area….from my words, to my actions, to my diet.
It effects my attitude, my child and my marriage.
If you’re feeling the same way, please know that you’re not alone.
This journey as Doctor Mom is a difficult road. Exhaustion will happen at some point.
What’s a Doctor Mom to do?
Well, I’ve decided to be good to myself. God has blessed me with a free calendar today and I will take full advantage of it.
I will nap. Without feeling guilty.
I will read my bible. So thankful for the comfort.
I will listen to Christian music, light candles and play with my child.
I’m going to do my best to “recharge” so I can keep a smile on my Doctor Mom face.
Are you taking care of yourself?
There will be seasons of your life when the house isn’t clean, you run out of groceries and all the laundry is dirty. Sometimes all on the same day.
Sound familiar? Don’t feel guilty. It happens to all of us.
Sometimes you don’t even have time to take a shower. For days. I have a Doctor Mom friend who finally just Febreezed herself one day.
You might find behave differently. Perhaps you’re not usually an angry person and suddenly you’re fighting with your husband. Or you’re short-tempered with your child. Or you start to isolate yourself from friends.
Your emotions will be very confusing. You’ll feel happy, sad, angry, guilty, and overwhelmed.
One day you might pat yourself on the back, thinking you really have a handle on things and the very next day you’ll cry until you think that you need a doctor yourself. At some point, this happens to us all. Usually many times.
Before you get depressed—there are ways to cope with everything thrown at you. God hasn’t left you in the dark. His Word is full of wisdom and guidance to get you through the changes.
The bibical story of Mary and Martha gives great insight into how God wants us to live. You’ll find the story in Luke 10:38-41.
Jesus and his disciples are visiting the sisters. Mary quickly curled up at Jesus’ feet so she could listen to him. But Martha? Well…she was “distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.” And then, she got frustrated with Mary for not helping her. After complaining to Jesus, Martha learned that Mary had made a better choice by putting Jesus first.
Today is the day for you to make a choice:
Will you worry about cleaning the house? Or will you take some time to read the Bible?
Will you feel guilty about taking a nap? Or will you be good to yourself so you can be a great Doctor Mom?
Please note…..I do think being a good homemaker is an important ministry to your family. I long to be a Proverbs 31 woman. But the truth is that your role as Doctor Mom needs to be your priority. If you aren’t able to dust or vacuum one week because you were up all night taking care of your child—you made the right choice.
And God will honor you for having the heart of a servant. You can’t make wise medical decisions if you are exhausted. And guilt will just weigh you down even more.
Most importantly, you can’t be a good Doctor Mom without seeking wisdom from the Great Physician first.
Question: Will you be Mary or Martha today?
As Doctor Moms, we’re often so busy focusing on our child that we forget to take care of ourself. Seriously. When is the last time you took a few minutes for Y-O-U?
Today is the day to change that! Every weekend, try to do something—anything— to take a little extra care of yourself. I find it’s much easier to do this on a weekend when your spouse is around to help.
(Unless your husband is uninvolved in the care of your child. That’s another story. But it happens and I’ll write about it on another day. I know many moms need encouragement in this area.)
On to a few ideas to take care of yourself:
- Call a friend.
- Take a nap (my favorite!)
- Window Shop.
- Flip through magazines at your bookstore or library.
- Have your nails done. If you’re watching your pennies, take the time to do them yourself.
- Curl up with a good book—that’s not related to your child’s illness! (Another favorite for me.)
- Light candles to make your house smell yummy.
- Go for a walk. Alone.
- Put on some great music!
- Crochet or knit. (If you don’t know how, maybe it’s time to learn. I got a little book and taught myself in one day. Seriously!)
- Look through old photos.
- Read through the psalms. You’ll find lots of encouragement there!
- Play the piano!
It doesn’t matter what you do—JUST DO SOMETHING! Take time to care for yourself.
Your child’s health depends on you and you’re too important to neglect!
QUESTION: What will you do to relax this weekend?